…if your partner loves and respects you and wants to do right by your relationship, then you don’t need to place controls on his behavior; his behavior will reflect the fact that he wants to do right by you, and does so because he chooses to, not because you make him. As Shelly wrote elsewhere, behavior is an emergent phenomenon. You don’t actually control your partner’s heart by controlling his behavior. If your partner’s heart is not really with your relationship, making rules won’t protect your relationship; if your partner’s heart is with your relationship, making rules to protect the relationship is unnecessary.
more than two/ polyamory/ jealousy: practice (via inventinghope)
I sort of agree with this, but as I’ve said before, often times “rules” are just a convenient way of saying “If you did this, it would make me sad” - and that’s not necessarily controlling, that’s communicating. And if you’re in a relationship with someone, you each deserve to know what the other finds upsetting.
“If you did this, I would be sad,” is indeed communicating. Which is very different from making a rule. An order of magnitude different.
I completely agree that partners should know about each other, and definitely should know what makes them happy and sad.(via polyamorousmisanthrope)
Im only going to have one winner but heres what you can win:
- that tiana doll
- tiana music box
- ariel coin bank
- lollipop phone (it works perfectly…i stopped using it when i got my disney phone)
- $50 giftcard for disney (can be used at the parks too if youre there)
- mickey pop! thing
- princess post-its
- nintendo DS (it works fine, but i dont want it anymore. psp ftw)
- 2 iphone 4 cases
- cinderella perfume
- haunted mansion figurines
- likes and reblogs both count! reblog as much as you want but be respectful to your followers
- no giveaway blogs
- I will send internationally
- you have to be ok with sharing your address
- you HAVE to be following me
THIS ENDS JUNE 20TH!!!
I feel like making something. Haven’t made any models, drawn or painted anything for ages. Should get out and take some pictures too, I feel the need to create!
I’m going to start doing art club again (inviting people over and getting art materials out), you can’t be invited though because your art is too good :P
Oh, how I love you Glee. (fabyoulossitee)
Laugh | via Tumblr su We Heart It. http://weheartit.com/entry/62075586/via/TUABFC
Hi. These are some pictures of my butt that I’ve posted on my blog. I just wanted to clear some stuff up about them. I have stopped posting them in the past because I was dating someone who 1) didn’t want other people seeing my butt and 2) was embarrassed that I would post them.
Here’s the most basic way I can say what I’m thinking.
Here’s what these pictures DON’T mean:
- I want to have sex with you.
- I want your attention.
- I want sexual attention.
- I have issues with self esteem.
- I have no self-respect.
- I have “daddy issues”.
- I will have sex with you no matter who you are.
- I am unintelligent and vapid.
Here’s what these pictures DO mean:
- The human body is beautiful.
- I have a butt.
- It’s a good butt.
- I’m proud of it.
- Here’s a picture of it.
- That’s it.
- Nothing else.
- Just a butt.
Here’s what these pictures say about me:
Here’s what pisses me off:
- People who think that showing your body equates to a lack of self-respect or says something about your sexual activity.
- People who think that this justifies receiving fucked up and creepy anonymous messages of harassment.
- People who think that seeing a picture of my butt says anything about my personality, my mind, my soul, etc.
- People who say they back up feminism and body positiveness, but if their girlfriend, or a girl they were interested in, posted a picture of their body on the internet they would suddenly “lose respect” for them.
- People who think naked bodies = sex.
- People who say things like “Do you think you’ll ever get a boyfriend if you’re posting those pictures?”, “I thought you weren’t posting those pictures anymore, haha.”, or “Why would someone date you when they can just look at your blog for those pictures?”
- People who say those things and then ask me to send them pictures of my body. Fuck you.
Here’s what (I think) you should do:
- Stop leaving hateful anonymous messages.
- Stop using words like “slut” and “whore”.
- Stop having double standards.
- Stop assuming things about people.
- Stop being hateful.
- Be kind, be gentle, be respectful.
- Keep scrolling down your dashboard.
- Keep your shitty thoughts to yourself.
- Love yourself.
That’s basically all I wanted to say for now, I’m sure I’ll end up thinking of more things but this has been a massive post about being body positive and loving the way you look and not letting shitty people get you down.
So much praise for this post
a friend came round to help me revise and forgot to log out of her facebook on my laptop so I’ve spent the last 20 minutes devoting her facebook to trains.
I’ve also got the middle name “ILikeTrains” pending and have joined 50 “I love trains” groups.
You didn’t think too deeply about this did you? Of course not. If you were prone to thinking deeply about things… you probably wouldn’t be a Feminist, now would you?
I’m screaming “THAT’S THE POINT THAT’S LITERALLY THE POINT YOU JUST MADE THE EXACT POINT” at my computer screen right now.
oh my god
I don’t agree with Mr. Cappadocia’s wording and, er, tone, because it’s kinda pretentious, but… this picture does not justify the existence of feminism.
It really does NOT make sense. So, I can say… “The comments on any article about MRAs justify the existence of MRAs” or “The comments on any article about war justify the existence of war” or “The comments on any article about capitalism justify the existence of capitalism.”
I understand what the picture is trying to say but it’s very illogical argument. You know what justifies the existence of equal rights movements? The fact that people don’t have equal rights.
Lewis’s law does work, just no one in the above conversation understands it/ It means if someone writes an article say about women being frced out of the workplace by cuts to childcare. All of the comments will go ‘ermergerd she belongs in the home’ ‘make me a sandwich while you are there etc’.
Thus the comments will show that women are still are marginalised group.
Seriiusly how can comments about war justify war? And you are calling feminist stupid?
Thank you Becky for putting into words what my brain was trying to work out.
The arguments above kind of say “if chickens lay chicken eggs, cows must lay cow eggs… there’s no such thing as cow eggs OBVIOUSLY CHICKENS DON’T LAY EGGS”
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